Making Your Man Miss You ~ Work At Home Businesses

Hey Loves,

I know, I know. I've been out of the loop for quite a while. I'm still plugging away at my book. Before I put it out there, it must be perfect.  Well, as close to perfect as one can get. You know, I'm sure there are a few things will be overlooked. But, my goal is to have zero misspellings.

Damn ADD again. 

I'm going off base here. Now, today's post is inspired by a friend of mine. who's been in a long distance relationship for the better half of seven years. We went out this past weekend, had a few drinks a discussed how relationships can change. You know how it goes, in the beginning the guy sweeps you off your feet and woos the living hell out of you. You're gifted with flowers, jewelry, candies, etc. You get the picture. Then, after some time together you may find that you both are so comfortable with each other.  (Nothing wrong with that, but you do want to maintain that spark.) Communication my cease and you kind of seem like you've become strangers over the years. Wow, how did this all happen?

Now I've been married for six years and as we all know, men are from Mars, women are from Venus.  This is so true! We can be a little more emotional than men are. Also, with every day life we sometimes forget the little things which mean a lot. This really goes for both sexes.  Want to put the mystery and spark back into your relationship? Well, here's a few things I've tried....and believe me.  It works!

Okay, so I've noticed I'm totally off base, but some of the tips below are great for starting your own business. So, I guess this blog is basically killing two birds with one stone.  Remember, these tips are for married women, and those who are in long distance relationships.  


Staying Busy as A Bee

1.  Sure, it's nice to get a phone call, text, or email from you man during the day. If you've discovered he isn't emailing or calling the way he used to, don't send numerous emails to him.  Make him touch base with you. This makes it seem like you've got way more time on your hands than you can shake a stick at. Men love women who are unavailable. Send one or two emails a day, that's it.  Even if you aren't all that busy, he doesn't have to know it. You don't want to be idly sitting by your laptop waiting on that email from him to appear. He'll wonder what you're up to and will contact you. Men always seem to want what's out of reach. Be sure to have an active life outside your relationship and not make yourself available to him much. He'll miss you more.

2.  What if you're suddenly getting one or two line emails instead of several paragraphs? Okay, this may mean your man may be in a rush for meetings, and things of that nature. But if you're a woman who desires things to be the way they used to, use  the advice above. Don't nag or wear your heart on your sleeve. Remember, you need to be mysterious and have him wondering what you've been up to during the day. Men are explorers by nature, so the less he knows the more he wants to know, so you'll be sure to pique his curiosity when you're not revealing your inner thoughts.

3.   Join a gym. There's so much to do in life and re-sculpting your body. Design an awesome weight lifting program several times a week and keep yourself in shape. Don't worry. You're not going to bulk up because you're lifting weights. The only way we can do this is if we start taking steroids. I love working out with heavy weights. Challenge yourself.


Keep The Sexiness In Your Relationship!

1.  Ladies, Don't get too used to wearing those sweats all the time.  Yes, I love wearing my workout gear, but from time to time I don my sexy maxi dresses. There's nothing wrong with strutting around the house showing a little cleavage. Give him a mouth watering treat.

2.  Lingerie, lingerie, and more lingerie. 

I get bored easily so, I've been known to take a few shopping trips to my fav stores. I love going to Fredericks of Hollywood and a few other lingerie shops in the area. Sometimes I'll take a day and go shopping in the BWI area.

Collect lingerie, have your garters, French bras, and all your other unmentionables in various colors that compliment your skin tone. Basic black his hot, but red, white and Navy Blue are always hotter!

3.  Get a mani-pedi. There's nothing like having someone do your hands and feet a few times a month.

4.  Go to the salon and change your do.

5.  Even though I may run a few errands, I'll sometimes apply makeup, now we're talking foundation, eye makeup, lips, etc. Go to the malls and have a makeover.


Got a Creative Gene? Start Your Own Business!

I can't stress this enough. Start your own business!  Everyone has a talent. I have a lot of friends who are stay at home moms, but that's all they do is stay at home, maintaining the house, running errands, etc. I've seen them lose their identities and that's just unacceptable.

1.  Hell, take an art, candle, or soap making class. If you're basically a homemaker and don't work at all, you may need a hobby.

2.  Natural hair care lines are booming because we just can't seem to trust those commercial products. With all the parabens, sulfates, and crap we can't pronounce, you don't know what you're putting on your body.

3.  Web Design. Yes, I've designed a few websites for local businesses around my area. It's good cash on the side. I've also designed a few covers as well. Now, I'm no means an artist, but Adobe Photoshop helps tremendously. But, this is one of many gigs you can do to keep yourself busy.

4.  Become an author!  Yes, the publishing industry is booming, there are literally thousands of new ebook authors out there. Nowadays, it's easy to self publish. Just make sure you hire a professional editor, formatter, graphic artist, and copywriter.

5.  Sell some jewelry!  What?

Okay, if you're creative enough, why not sell your own jewelry? You can purchase the necessary items at any arts and craft store. Earrings are a cinch to make as well as necklaces.  I enjoy wire wrapping stones and making little pendants.

Don't like making your own jewelry?  There are many places you can become an independent rep like Silpada and a few others. Earn money while hosting these parties.  I've been a Silpada rep since last year. Now, the money isn't enough for a full time career, but it's a fab way of earning some quick cash on the side. I usually get my girlfriends together once a month, sometimes every other month when Da Hubby is with the guys. We have wine. Yes, that' makes it fun! LOL   I love wine, but that's another story.  But during the day if some of my girls come over, it's usually Lattes or coffee because I've got to pick up the teenager from the bus stop.


Makeup

1.  You can start your own makeup business too. Lipsticks, eyeshadows, lip glosses. The possibilities are endless.

2.  Don't want to make your own? There's always Avon and Mary Kay.  I used to be reps for both but for me I wasn't too good at selling make up. The jewelry I've invested in usually has people in public asking me about it and I give them my card. But I'm not one to actively pursue someone. I let them come to me.   ; )

And you're probably wondering why I do so many thing. Well, I'm a Sagittarius, and we like to stay busy. Plus, I get bored easily. I enjoy dabbling and having something different to do each day. 

And that's it ladies.  Oh, and make sure you register your business with your local federal agency to file those taxes! You don't want the IRS breathing down your neck.

Forbidden

Hey, it's me again.   * wink *

I'm taking a break from writing because there's a story I'd really love to share with the world. I think I'll start posting bits and pieces here and I'm taking the plunge and putting all of it on Literotica. Oh yeah, baby! Literotica has provided me with some juicy stories over the years. 

* As if I needed more naughty ideas*

Forbidden is a story set during slavery times. I've only shared it with the hubby and he found it highly erotic. I wrote it in 2010 and contemplated sending it off to a publisher but it's something I never finished. 

Oh well, here goes nothing.   Below are my cast of characters

Cast of Characters 

Hero’s name Jacques Du Bourg

Hero’s father’s name

Claude Du Bourg

Deceased Mother’s Name 

Alexandrine Du Bourg 

Heroine’s first name in Nineteenth Century New Orleans

Celeste

Heroine’s name in modern times 

Dominique

Now see, I'm indecisive in regards to skipping centuries into modern times or keeping this story implanted in the past. I'm in the process of posting chapters of this story on Literotica. Below is a little piece I'm sharing with you now.    * wink *

New Orleans 1812

Chapter One

     Jacques Du Bourg awoke from his restless sleep and shifted uncomfortably in the large four-post bed. Immediately, his thoughts drifted to his beloved Celeste. He never slept soundly when she was not by his side. He was hopelessly in love with the beautiful slave woman who captured his heart.  

     Unfortunately, their love was forbidden. Claude, Jacques’ father forbade the relationship to continue, although in vain. His father demanded that Jacques follow in his footsteps, go off to war, taking over his sugar plantation, and eventually marrying, to a Caucasian woman, nonetheless. 

     With a lazy groan, he rose and sat on the side of the bed, planting his feet firmly on the cool, wooden floor. He imagined life without Celeste as he starred into the abyss of the pitch black room. His life would be just that. Pitch black, nothing else would matter. He shuddered at the thought. Closing his eyes, he briefly recalled the heated conversation between he and his father. 

   

* * * *

      “It is not permissible Jacques. I forbid you to carry on with Celeste as you do. What will others think? I suggest you end it, now!”

      “Father, I mean you no disrespect. I will not end my relationship with Celeste. I love her.”

      “You know not what you say son.” Claude placed a hand on his son’s shoulder, sympathizing with he lad. Jacques was stubborn, a trait inherited from his mother, Alexandrine who passed a year ago. 

     “Simply use her Jacques to ease your sexual desires until you find a woman you are meant to be with. Even then, you can still continue to sate your lust with Celeste.” Claude’s words were cold and harsh. 

     “No father. Celeste means much more than a simple night’s passion.”

     “That is my worry boy. Most masters visit their slave women in the night, in slave’s quarters. But you—You must go to the extreme, bringing her into your bed, and our home! Surely the other slaves speak of your trysts with her. Not to mention the fact, she is five years your senior. Not a good mix, I assure you. This will end in nothing but tragedy!”

     “Father, twenty-seven is not beyond my reach. She is a beautiful woman. Why do you not give her a chance? Why can you not see, I love her?”

     Jacques saw the tortured, concerned look within his father’s eyes. “My, son. Such a young, foolish boy you are. Claude cupped his son’s face between his large hands. Look around you. This is America. Would you proudly parade around with her attached to your arm in the streets of New Orleans?” Jacques hung his head, knowing he and Celeste would never be accepted, not in this land. In France, they’d have a chance, most likely there would be very few couples like them. Looks would follow them everywhere, but marriage would be legal.

     “If you care for her as you claim to, you will not carry this any further. There are some who would not hesitate to kill her on sight if you flaunted your feelings for her in the public eye.” 

     “Then, I shall return to our homeland with her. America is cruel compared to our beloved France. You know that father.” Claude stroked his gray beard, admiring his son’s persistence.  

     “I fear for you. I truly do. Many do not tolerate the mixing of the races. I, myself would never go as far as the other slave-owners. I treat my slave well. I don’t believe in the brutality many owners subject their slaves to. I can assure you, harm may come to you both Jacques.”

     “Such stupidity. Why is it perfectly well for a married man to bed a slave woman? Why sneak off into the night, to slave quarters to satisfy lustful yearnings? I find it cowardly! Why should a man, such as myself hide his feelings towards the woman he loves?”

     “How dare you talk to me in such a manner? Are you insinuating that I’m a coward? I was once in such a predicament as yourself, a year after your mother and I settled this land!”

     “I know father, mother often told me how it pained her, knowing you ventured off to the slave quarters in the night. How can that be right?”

     “I was young then, my son. I loved your mother, but could not resist the temptation of beautiful dark skin. What was I to do, dismiss Alexandrine? She was my wife.”

     “Did you love the slave girl you were with?” Jacques peered deep into his father’s eyes, forcing Claude to shift his weight on his other foot. Eventually, the man turned, slowly walking towards the window.

     “I loved Adelaide,” Claude hung his head in shame. I could not help myself, I loved both women. Adelaide often accompanied me to the market, keeping her distance behind me. Pretty soon, our relationship was discovered. Somehow, she was lynched.”

     “Why have you waited until now to share this with me?” Couldn’t you have protected Adelaide?”

     “Someone, perhaps another slave murdered her in the night. Do you wish the same fate to befall you and Celeste?”

     “You mean to tell me, you never knew who murdered her?”

     “Alas my son, no. I was devastated. Since then, never have I fallen into the arms of another slave woman. It is forbidden and unnecessary. The heartache it brought about could have been avoided.”

      “Things will be different for Celeste and I.” 

      “I see there is no use in speaking of this matter further. You have been warned Jacques. I leave it up to you.” Claude turned on his heel and exited the room, leaving Jacques to his thoughts.

 I'm still cutting my teeth here as an aspiring author. From time to time I'll post small tidbits of my writing here on the blog to strengthen my writing skills. Of course, when the time comes I'll illicit the services of an editor and copyeditor before uploading to Amazon. Unfortunately at this time I don't personally know any editors, but I've been researching. Perhaps I'll contact the editors who have worked on the books I've purchased. 

   

I Write Dark Erotic Romance

I'm all set on social media. Twitter, Facebook, Google accounts are made. Oh wait. What about Tumblr, Vine, Instagram, yada, yada, yada. * sigh * I'm already overwhelmed, but hey I'm an aspiring author.

I'm a 44 year old insatiable reader in an interracial marriage for over twenty years. Hubby is very supportive, and that's why he didn't totally flip when I decided to write full time. Well, I own a business, but I have people who run the shop, so what the hell. Anyway, I've been bitten by the writing bug a long time ago....Oh, you'll discover I ramble sometimes.  * Sorry * 

I guess this is the part where say I've been writing since Elementary school, etc, etc, etc. LOL Seriously, I've been scribbling for years now and I'm currently working on a book I need to publish.

Need?

Yes, I need to write.  I write to appeal the dark fantasies harboring inside my dirty little mind. Don't get me wrong, I'm all about romance. I absolutely love romance, but there's something deep down inside itching to get out and say "helloooo world." 

I love writing dark erotic romances that are military themed."

"Ah, that's awesome."

"And there are some....ahem, other little things I forgot to tell you." 

"What's that you say?"

"I love exploring the dark side of love and romance. You know, temptation, hot alpha males who start out being total dicks but are redeemed at the end. Oh yeah, and there's BDSM, alternative lifestyles, cuckholding.....

"Shut your mouth!" 

"Choke, Gasp....Ahem! You heard me. Some of my stories contain cuckholding, couples who are into watching their SO's get it on with other people."

"Seriously?"

"Seriously!"

My couples are sometimes flawed but like to delve into the darker side of love and romance. We're talking true love, but there's a dark beast lurking beneath the facades of my heroes and heroines. I'd like to break out my microscope and examine them closely.

Now, before you get all judgmental and whatnot, this is simply entertainment meshed with a few fantasies. Let's face it, we all fantasize, but sometimes fantasies are better left as such, wouldn't you agree?  What of those couples who embark on their deepest, darkest fantasies? Do their relationship survive the fallout??

Well, stick around and find out. You're in for a hell of a ride.